There have been comprehensive channeling sessions dealing with this. Some Googling for "monad positive negative poles" can help you find them and these will answer your question in more depth than is in my opinion possible in a short post.

In order to understand if you are negotiating a monad successfully, you need to surely understand what is that monad about, and whether you have successfully negotiated the previous ones. You could get this channeled but if you do understand the above, with self-honesty you can tell for yourself.