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« on: June 15, 2011, 10:14:59 PM »
I have been channeled as being a server. And my own gut feeling validates this. However, I don’t seem to fit what I’ve come to see as a stereotypical profile of a server. For instance, I don’t volunteer, don’t do “good works”, don’t like serving others (they can serve themselves), and, while I love my grandchildren and they love me, I hate to babysit. I can’t stand to hear about other peoples’ troubles. I have my own troubles, and I work them out myself. Other people can do the same.
There may be some people who willingly and happily live a life of service/servitude to others, but that’s not me. I am quite intelligent and articulate, and my life is just as important as anyone else’s--I see no reason why I should spend it helping others at my own expense. My time is as important as anyone else’s.
Of course, I do enjoy helping others occasionally, and I do have most of the attitude of the server—but only when I feel like it. Don’t expect it of me. My fulfillment does not come from serving others. It comes from many different things. (I will say that my “winning the lotto” fantasy has just as much to do with helping others monetarily as it does with helping myself. But I think that might be true of everyone.)
I asked, in two different chat rooms, why there were not more servers represented. The answer, very quickly given, was that servers were too busy serving. What struck me was that both responses were given so quickly and were exactly--word-for-word--the same. This leads me to believe that servers have been stereotyped as people designed to help others above all else, and that troubles me. In my opinion, this is not good work. I think other factors, such as overleaves, are far more important than the role.
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