Is there a religion that does not demand total submission to it's beliefs?? The biggest problem is keeping the notion of life's magic and realizing it is purposeful. Most people KNOW life is not simply an accidental occurrance. We should not need abject submission to fear in order to be worthy of our lives. It seems most of us need to feel guilty about our shortcomings. But heck, have we not tried to arrange our lives to learn all these pesky lessons ??
I had this crisis myself. I was raised Roman Catholic, yet my father was Greek Orthodox. And the interesting thing, even as a child, was that I actually appreciated, as a teenager, that in the Greek Orthodox church the priests could marry and have families of their own....I think that may have been the same time that I begain to become really disillusioned with "organised religion". Programming being what it is, there was no way I was able to walk away from the RCC whilst my mother and grandmother still walked around - lots of expectations there indeed.
When I was 32, both Mom and Nana were gone to the other side, and I found the Unitarian Universalist church. I was totally scared to walk in there, thinking it would disrespect the family traditions, but I'm so glad the inner rebel nudged me to do just that. How wonderful it was to be amongst a group of people, with different belief systems, different ideas but sharing in the common goal of tending to one another. No Dogma, No Sin, No Hell. Amazing concepts to someone raised RCC I can tell you.
So the answer is yes, there are places where one can have fellowship without having the man made constructs of control, fear and sin shoved down your throat.
Blessings
Nancy