Expectations and Hope

edited May 2013 in Choice
Michael has touched before on the difference between having expectations and having hope. Would they please comment further on these two elements, and how we can appropriately apply them to our lives?

MICHAEL: Expectations are demands. Demands are an attempt to limit choice. This not only diminishes the other person; it diminishes the one demanding, too. It creates a constricted field that says that "Only if life goes in the direction I think it should will there be okayness in the universe."

Hope, on the other hand, is an expression of intention. You desire an outcome. You are not requiring it but you are magnetizing it, opening yourself to it, watching for it. Hope is most useful when it is based on a certain amount of realism. To hope, for example, that a movie star you don't know will fall in love with you is a waste of energy. However, to hope that someone you know will fall in love with you may be quite useful when it is not yet clear what the other person's feelings are. The positive hope communicates to the other person, whereas being totally neutral does not--it might be read as indifference and doesn't magnetize the result you wish.

Once the other person makes a choice to either move toward you or away from you, hope is no longer useful in this context; then you are either pursuing a relationship or seeing that it is not going to happen, in which case you are best off letting go of the hope. Holding onto hope once the facts have been established causes heartache. On the other hand, there are instances in which hope may not seem justified but it is-- you can sense that the facts have not actually been established, even though the situation looks hopeless.

CHANNELED BY: Shepherd Hoodwin
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